When The Mind & Body Are Not In Sync

You Did It Too!



A few days ago, I had to go back to the office at night, almost midnight actually, because I had left the power cord for my notebook there. That is not the first time I did that and most of the time, I could not be bothered to go back and get it. However, it was a different case that night. I needed the power cord since I had to meet a client the next morning and there was no way on earth for me to go to the office first and then to the meeting place. Well, unless I left the house at 6 am, which meant I had to wake up at 5 am. That's impossible for me. I could even forget to wake up at that time in the first place. I guess my memory card is already full and I find it rather difficult to commit things to my short term memory nowadays. Beats me!



Anyway, back to about the trip to the office. Since it was almost midnight when I got there, the whole place was kind of quiet and spooky. I took the lift up and opened the door. I switched on the lights and picked up the power cord and quickly left the office. So, there was no ghost playing around in the office. That was nice of them.



As I was driving home, I had to stop at a traffic light. There were 2 cars ahead of me. the light turned green and the 1st car made it. By the time the 2nd had almost made it, the light turned yellow. I was already half way by then and before I got across the light was already red. Silly! Why did they make it change too fast?



I noticed there was a 4X4 following me and suddenly some red and blue lights flashed and a siren blasted from the vehicle behind me. Great! It must have been my lucky night. I stopped by the road side and the police 4X4 pulled over next to me.







Policeman1: "Encik mengantuk ke?"

(Are you sleepy?)



Bear: "Ya, sikit..."

(Yes, a little bit...)



Policeman1: "Encik dah langgar lampu merah."

(You have beaten the red light.)



Policeman1: "Itu kesalahan besar."

(That is a big offense)



Bear: "Oh! Tapi Encik pun salah jugak"

(Oh! but you are at fault too)



Bear: "Encik sepatutnya tunggu lampu hijau..."

(You should have waited for the green light...)



Bear: "... sebelum kejar saya..."

(before chasing after me...)



Policeman1: "errr..."



Policeman2: "Encik jangan buat lagi."

(Don't do that again.)



And they drove on. It's my lucky night indeed. In reality, I was not sleepy but I was not really paying attention to the red, yellow and green lights. My mind was not really there...

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Terrorized



I know that there is no such word as "zerorized" in the English language. However, it is a word commonly used to make something zero and everybody understands that.



So, I wrote an email to a client and part of it was:



In order for the Lot module to work, you must first zerorized all existing stocks in the system....



Once done, I clicked the send button and the spell checker kicked in. It suggested a few words to replace "zerorized" and the 1st word was "terrorized". I guess my mind was not there again and I clicked the OK button and the mail was sent.



Only a few seconds later I realized what I had done. I check my sent mail and to my horror I saw:



In order for the Lot module to work, you must first terrorized all existing stocks in the system....



My client must be terrified. I had to send another email to explain that...

Asking For Her Hand: Part 5 - Farewell Dumai

February 20, 2006. Bear heard someone opened the door but Bear was too lazy to open his eyes. Then Bear felt someone kissed his eyebrow. Bear thought he was dreaming so he opened his eyes. He saw Little Lion and quickly hugged her. Then Little Lion told Bear that it was time for Subuh prayer and then Bear realized that he was not dreaming. That was real and that was better than a dream. So, The Lions and Bear performed the prayer together again that morning. That morning, while clearing the prayer mats, Bear found a flattened lizard under Little Lion's mat. That poor lizard did not even have the time to turn blue or green. It was already cold when Bear picked it up and buried it in the dustbin. Little Lion was just screaming away in disgust.



Soon after that Papa Lion invited all of us for a morning tour around the city of Dumai and the Pertamina housing complex. Bear asked Little Lion whether we should shower first and Little Lion said no. Bear had no problem with that. Again, Little Lion walked down memory lane that morning and Bear just sat there enjoying the view and the history lesson. It was a calm morning. As calm as Bear's heart going around Dumai with Little Lion and her family.





Little Lion and Bear in Dumai





After the tour, everybody felt hungry and we went for breakfast at Gantino since Little Lion had another craving. That time she wanted to have Lontong Sayur for breakfast. It was rice cakes with some jackfruit gravy and went well with the cow skin crackers. I forgot what do they call the crackers. It was really delicious although Bear disliked jackfruit.



After breakfast, we found out that the front tyre of the panther was flat. Luckily there were people around with the equipment and skills to change the tyre. For a few thousands Rupiah, you could just let them do it for you. While waiting for the tyre to be changed, Little Lion, Mama Lion and Bear went to the ferry office to check in. By the time we got back to the panther, everything was fixed and ready to roll again.



At home, after saying goodbye to Papa Lion who had to go to work, Mama Lion asked Little Lion and Bear to shower since Bear had to be at the jetty by 10 am. After a quick shower and packing, we left for the jetty.Then Mama Lion insisted that Bear bring back something for Mama Bear. We stopped at local store and Mama Lion bought some Lempuk or Durian cakes and Bear got some snacks and drinks while Little Lion settled for her favourite; Magnum ice cream. Little Lion likes it big!



We arrived at the Dumai Port about 10 am. Just nice. We took a photo with Mama Lion and then Bear said goodbye to Mama Lion and Ranto and then kissed Little Lion and walk into the terminal. Once inside, a few people inquired about Little Lion. They thought that Little Lion was already Bear's wife and asked when would Little Lion come along. On the way to the ferry, two port security personnels ask Bear about his golf game. That was because Bear had run out of shirt and had to wear Papa Lion's golf t-shirt. Luckily, Papa Lion had a few smaller t-shirts that he could not fit in.



Once on the ferry, Bear started to miss Little Lion very much. A few sms-es later, a box of not-so-nice fried noodles and some snacks from Dumai, Bear fell asleep and woke up in Melaka.



That was one of the best moments in Bear's life to spend 3 wonderful days in Dumai with Little Lion and her family and Bear would not forget that for the rest of his life.



The End.



Part 4 - A New Chapter



Watch out for Bear's family meeting Little Lion's family in Dumai - coming soon!

Asking For Her Hand: Part 4 - A New Chapter

One by one, the passengers got off the plane and Little Lion was among the last that got down. Mama Lion went out from the waiting area but Bear remained inside. The plan was to jump on Little Lion but somehow she was already expecting Bear to be lurking somewhere not far from Mama Lion. Anyway, a little hug and then Little Lion noticed that Bear was wearing sandals. I told her that they belong to Papa Lion since he didn't want Bear to go through the trouble of wearing shoes. It took Little Lion quite sometimes to get over her giggling about that...



At the same time Papa Lion had arrived at the airport from the golf course with Ranto. Since Papa Lion and Little Lion were tired, we went straight home. Nothing much happened at home. Papa Lion went of to his room to rest and Little Lion filled her time teasing Bear. Luckily for Little Lion, Bear was unable to give chase since Bear have to behave in that house. After praying maghrib together, The Lions and Bear went for dinner in town.





Little Lion fooling around





We had crabs for the main dish and after dinner, we bought some martabak keju and durian (cheese and durian pancakes). Then Little Lion had a craving for Air Akar, which was a drink made from seaweed. Then we headed home.



Then, it seemed that the moment of truth had finally come. Papa and Mama Lion, together with Little Lion were sitting at the table enjoying the pancakes. Little Lion started to make all the signs to get Bear to say something but Bear just could not say anything, Instead, Bear kept on eating the pancakes, piece by piece. Seriously, Bear had no idea on how to initiate the proposal... Finally, Little Lion told Papa Lion that Bear had something to talk about and all of us moved to the family hall.



Papa Lion sat on the chair facing the TV. Mama Lion sat on a chair next to the TV and she was playing with the remote control, changing channels. Little Lion sat on the floor across Bear who sat on a stool, holding a big pillow. Papa Lion was smiling and Little Lion was still making all the signs to start. Bear was still blank. There was some moments of silence. However, the silence was so loud that Bear started to sweat profusely. Time passed so slowly and everyone was waiting for Bear to say something. It was one of the most tensed moments that Bear had ever had in his life. Eventually, Bear gathered all his strength and said:



"Saya mau yang itu... anak papa... yang itu..."

(I want that one... that daughter of yours...)

... while pointing to Little Lion.



Oh my God! Bear actually said that and there was nothing else to do but hide behind the big pillow. From behind the pillow, Bear heard laughters. Bear knew that Little Lion was probably rolling on the floor by that time. Then Bear heard Mama Lion said:



"Apa kamu ni? Kayak anak kecil aja..."

(What is it with you? You are like a little boy...)

... and she continued laughing.



By that time, Bear wished that he was invisible. Bear could feel that his face was all red. Peeking from the pillow, Bear said:



"Kalau boleh nanti saya bawa orang tua saya and family datang..."

(If there is no objection, I'll bring me family later...)



Then only Papa Lion started to say something and went on to give his advice about being married and living together as a family. It was a long session but useful. Then Papa Lion excused himself since he had to work the next day.



That was it! Bear had officially proposed to Little Lion and her family had accepted the proposal. Bear was very happy that night and let a sigh of relief while Little Lion wiped the sweats from Bear's face. It was a hot night indeed. Only then Little Lion told Bear about the supposed to be script when asking for someone's daughter... Bear had no idea...



Anyway, that night was the beginning of a new chapter in the life of the Berry Bear and Little Lion.



Before going to bed, Bear hugged Little Lion for a long moment, as if not wanting to let go. It was time to move on and we would do it together. Good night my Little Lion...

to be continued...
Part 3 - A Long Morning

Asking For Her Hand: Part 3 - A Long Morning

February 19, 2006. Bear woke up to the call for prayer. It was the alarm clock in the room that performed the Adzan that woke Bear up. Bear got out of the room to perform the subuh prayer with Papa and Mama Lion but they were not there. Bear messaged Little Lion and she believed that Bear was too late. Bear didn't go back to sleep like Bear used to do at home but sat around the porch. Bear remembered that Little Lion once said Papa Lion would not let her sleep after the prayer. It was still a long wait before Little Lion would arrive in Dumai. Bear missed Little Lion very much that morning, just like any other morning without Little Lion around.



Soon Mama Lion called Bear in to have some tea with Papa Lion. Papa Lion had already toasted some breads for Bear. Bear knew that the next attempt to talk about Little Lion would be later so Bear just enjoyed the morning tea with some toasted breads topped with margerine. Papa Lion had a golf tournament that morning. So, after tea Papa Lion asked Bear to follow him along with Ranto who would be dropping him at the golf course. Bear did not have time to shower and jumped into the panther with Papa Lion and Ranto. Luckily Bear still smelled good!





An alien in Dumai





After dropping Papa Lion at the golf course, Ranto took Bear around the Pertamina complex at the Bukit Datuk (Tucin). That morning, Bear was shown the house where Little Lion used to stay, her schools as well as the supposed to be the longest rows of volleyball courts in Asia... or was it the world... Bear was not sure. Then, we went off to town where Ranto bought some Soto Medan for a second round of breakfast for Bear and the rest at home.



The Soto Medan great. Soon after that Bear thought of taking a shower but before Bear could do that, Mama Lion had asked Bear to follow her to the wet market in town. Bear used to go to the market with Mama Bear whenever Bear went back to his hometown. Therefore, Bear did not feel awkward and happily agreed to go. When we got there, Mama Lion Asked Bear to wait in the panther with Ranto. How could Bear resist a market in a foreign land? Bear got down from the panther followed by the surprised Ranto, who was supposed to ensure the safety of Bear.



Bear saw Mama Lion walking fast cutting through the morning crowd and Bear followed on with Ranto trailing not far behind. Finally Bear saw Mama Lion stopped at one of the stalls and Bear sneaked to her left. The seller looked at Bear and spontaneously, Mama Bear turned her head to the same direction. She was shocked to see Bear standing there... So, in the end, Ranto and Bear followed Mama Lion shopping at the market.



After coming back from the market, Bear thought of taking the shower again. But then, Om Dodi walked out of his room and Bear joined him at the dining table, accompanying him to eat his Soto Medan. Then Om Dodi asked Bear whether Bear wanted to follow him to town for some Dumai coffee. Bear said yes and scrapped the idea of taking a shower.



The coffee shop reminded Bear of his own childhood where Mama Bear used to run a restaurant back then. The type of cup and saucer used there was exactly what Mama Bear used to have during those old days. Om Dodi was supposed to meet his friend there and while waiting Om Dodi suggested that we have some Mee Pangsit (some kind of soupy noodles) so that Bear would know what it is. So, we ordered a half serving each and it was not bad at all. After finishing the noodles, Bear's tummy was filled to the brim. After meeting Om Dodi's friend, we went home.



At that time, Little Lion, who was still in Jakarta, was busy protesting about Bear who had not taken his shower yet. Lucky for Bear. If Little Lion were here, she would have given Bear some bites. That would be fun!



Since there was nothing much going on, Bear finally took his shower.



Lunch time came and Bear was getting more and more excited about the arrival of Little Lion. Mama Bear cooked lunch and Bear loved her cooking especially the Ikan Danau (some kind of small fish that were deep fried with green chillies) dish. Bear love fish and so Bear filled his tummy to the brim again.



1:45 pm, Mama Lion, Ranto and Bear went to the airport to pick Little Lion up. Mama Lion knew a lot of people at the airport and Bear just sat quietly beside her. Then came the announcement that Little Lion's flight was delayed. Ranto went off to pick Papa Lion from the golf course and Bear stayed at the airport, chatting away with Mama Lion.



Finally, at 3:00+ pm the plane landed.





Part 4 - A New Chapter

Part 2 - An Evening In Dumai

Asking For Her Hand: Part 2 - An Evening In Dumai

Papa Lion must have had some kind of sixth sense or something. He called right after Bear went through the immigration check. He asked Bear to look for Ranto the superboy. Little Lion had also mentioned that Ranto would be there to pick Bear up. Papa Lion also asked Bear to look for his car, which had a red number plate starting with "BM". Bear did not pay attention to the mentioned numbers as Bear was perplexed by the people who were offering services at the exit. However, the exit was cleared up when two policemen with canes in their hand chased after them.



Bear remembered that Little Lion once told Bear that Papa Lion drives a Terrano. Therefore, it was easy to spot the Terrano with the red number plate and not long after that Bear saw the smiling superboy Ranto. We got in the car and off we went to the Lion's house.





Bear in Dumai





Papa and Mama Lion was at the porch when Bear arrived. Both of them smiled and Bear felt good. After kissing their hands, Bear joined them for tea with some traditional nutty candies or biscuits. Bear could not recall the name but they were made of ground peanuts and really tasty. At the same time, Little Lion's uncle, Om (uncle) Dodi came. Apparently, he also went to the jetty but Bear was already picked up by Ranto. So, he just trailed us back to the house.



Bear didn't think that this would be the right moment to make the proposal and decided to wait for awhile. So, Bear just enjoyed the tea and the nutty stuffs. After sometimes, Bear wanted to give it a shot. For your information, Bear had no idea when the right time would be. As Bear was about to make the move, Papa Lion asked Bear to take a shower and get ready to go out for dinner with Om Dodi since Papa Lion had to attend a house warming party in the neighbourhood. So the first attempt was not successful...



The Lions and Bear performed the Maghrib prayer together that night and right after that Om Dodi was ready to take Bear to dinner. For the first time Bear went out for dinner wearing sandals. Papa Lion would not want Bear to wear shoes since he felt that it would be more convenient to just wear his sandals. Bear felt kind of funny wearing them outside the house. Now, that would be one new thing that Bear needs to get used to when being around Papa Lion.



Anyway, we had a scrumptious dinner at a local hotel, Hotel Patra something something... Bear could not remember that too. Bear's memory space is mostly filled with Little Lion. We had a whole fish (Bear loves fish), batter fried squids (sotong goreng tepung), some vegetables and rice. We could not finish all of them though.



A little bit about Om Dodi. He was a very cheery guy. He smiled and laughed a lot. In fact, he could do that almost all the time. Bear hopes that Om Dodi would not laugh while sleeping though. Later on, while we drove around for a short night tour of the city of Dumai, Bear found out that he was 2 months younger than Bear. However, by the virtue of being an uncle to Little Lion, Bear must address him as Uncle Dodi or Om Dodi. Great! That made Bear felt younger whenever he's around since Bear got to call him "Om!" ("Uncle!").



We got back to the house and Bear thought that he could go for the second attempt. Well, it didn't happen as well since at that time Papa Lion wanted to join some neighbours playing Domino at the porch. So, Bear took a sit and watched them played. After a while, Papa Lion disappeared into the house. Bear finally felt sleepy and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. There, Bear saw Papa Lion preparing coffee for his guests. Bear was amazed and sms-ed Little Lion who was still in Jakarta. Little Lion told Bear that was a normal thing that Papa Lion does.



Bear said good night to Papa Lion and sms-ed Little Lion about the failed attempts and decided to make the next attempt together with Little Lion. The noise made by those people playing domino at the porch became softer and softer and Bear crossed over to the never-never land...



Part 1 - The Trip To Dumai

Part 3 - A Long Morning

Asking For Her Hand: Part 1 - The Trip To Dumai

Note: This is the English version of Little Lion's entry BBD in Dumai. This is not a direct translation but this is for those who have difficulties reading the Bahasa Indonesia version. ;)

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February 17, 2006. At night. Not an ordinary night. Little Lion and Berry Bear were having some intense moments over the Yahoo Messenger. Words went back and forth. Heads cracking. Hearts pumping. Time was moving on. Finally, a decision was made. Bear would go to Dumai to meet up with Little Lion's parents. Yet another crazy move by the Berry Bear!



February 18, 2006. Bear drove all the way to Melaka. Bear was not that familiar with Melaka and had no idea where the ferry terminal to Dumai was. After a few stops, asking a few people, Bear eventually found the jetty. His first reaction was: "What a horrid place!" If KL has the magnificent KLIA, Bear was expecting the Melaka Jetty would not be too far away in terms of standard. The complex looked just like a godown. What a shame!



Anyway, Bear had no idea how that whole ferry thingy system works. He parked the Bearmobile and walked to the first stall that had the "Melaka-Dumai" words written. Bear simply had taken a risk to go there at that hour but Bear was blessed as the person behind the counter informed him that there was a ferry leaving for Dumai at 3:00pm. At the same time, the person was kind enough to patiently explain to Bear about the ferry service. Now Bear is an expert on ferry service to Dumai from Melaka... kind of...



The next task was to find a good parking space since Bear would have to leave the Bearmobile there for a few days. The first parking spot looked a bit dodgy so Bear drove the Bearmobile out and found an empty spot along some rows of shops. However, there was a person loitering there, glancing at the Bearmobile. Bear walked away for only about 100 meters and then decided to look for a new parking spot. Bear would not simply leave everything to chance! Finally, Bear found a spot in front of a marine police station. That should be safe enough.





The ferry that took Bear to Dumai





By 2:30 pm Bear got on the ferry after waiting under a shade provided by the godown look alike jetty in the middle of a steaming hot afternoon since 2:00 pm. The ferry was supposed to sail at 3:00 pm. That was what the person behind the counter said and that was what printed on the ticket. Nevertheless, the ferry stood still until 4:00 pm. Bear hated that seemingly never ending wait but then all the hatred went away when Bear thought of his Little Lion.



They served a little container of cold fried noodle and a cup of packed mineral water on the ferry. Bear was not hungry but then Bear did not like to waste food so the noodle was gobbled and washed down the throat with the mineral water. The rest of the 2 hour plus journey was nothing but some faded memories to Bear since he was totally engaged with dozing off to the the slight sway of the ferry cutting through the calm water of the Strait of Malacca.



5:00+ pm local time, Bear set foot for the first time on the land of Dumai. Dumai is where Little Lion was born and it was a proud moment for Bear to be there on that historical day. Shortly after Bear went passed the immigration check point, his phone rang. Papa Lion was on the other end...



Part 2 - An Evening In Dubai

Mantenan Jawa

Secara Beruang Jagoan gw tidak berasal dari budaya yg sama… giliran ditanya kebiasaan disana gimana gw kelimpungan juga jawabnya… secara gak begitu aware juga sama adat2-an… ala kadar doang pengetahuannya… gak detail… dan secara masih blom tau juga mo pake adat apa… tapi klo inget2 asal usul bokap dr tanah jawa.. gw jadi iseng pengen browsing... cari2 info ttg the javanesse wedding.. ternyata sumpe.. detail banget ya bo... rasa2 hati ribets banget... tapi kepengen juga ngejalaninnya... cuman bisa sekali seumur hidup bikin ginian.. dan secara mama dulu juga klo gw liat dari photo2 nya.. sukses juga melalui smua proses itu.. dan jadi kenangan yg sangat indah untuk diceritakan kembali ke anak cucu apa makna dari smua upacara yg dilakukan.. pada akhirnya yg gw temukan.. ini garis besarnya :

1. Kenalan

2. Midodaren

Pengajian

Pamitan

Siraman

Dodolan dawet

Lamaran & Seserahan

3. Ijab Kabul (Akad nikah)

4. Temu Manten

5. Syukuran/Resepsi

 

qeqeqe hebohkan… eheheh buat sekedar pengetahuan gak masalah kan…  tetep aje… buat kita berdua point paling penting tuh ijab Kabul-nya… yg listed diatas… uhmm liat budget dulu kali yee… klo ada dan bisa hayuuh.. klo gak ya gpp… makanya tetep lhoo kita terbuka banget… klo Omm and tante mo sponsorin kite.. pasti diterima 100% qqiqiqi (*tetep usaha!!!).. :P

Klo mau baca… ini yg paling mendekati…

Pengantin Surabaya Lasim Dinamakan pengantin pegon merupakan tradisi hingga saat ini yang masih hidup dibeberapa kampung di surabaya.   TAHAP KENALAN Merupakan kegiatan dimana keluarga calon pengantin pria berkunjung ke keluarga calon pengantin putri untuk saling berkenalan dan sekaligus menanyakan apakah si anak perempuan sudah ada yang mengikat atau belum. Biasanya kedatangan keluarga laki-laki dengan membawa buah tangan berupa makanan kue-kue tradisional. selanjutnya pembicaraan mengenai hari dan tanggal pernikahan.   TAHAP MIDODARENI (*sehari sebelum ijab kabul) Merupakan kegiatan dimana pada hari tersebut adalah hari terakhir bagi mempelai wanita seorang bidadari dan diyakini pada masa akhir tersebut turunlah 1001 (seribu satu) Bidadari mendampingi calon mempelai. Pada saat Midodareni ini keluarga calaon pengantin putri dilaksanakan: 1.      Siraman: Yaitu upacara yang menggambarkan saat terakhir calon mempelai menjadi tanggung jawab orang tua yang di tandai dengan memandikannya kembang setaman oleh orang tua mempelai dan sesepuh. *Note: siraman CPW, gunting rambut dll trus penyerahan air siraman dr CPW ke lokasi siraman CPP, dilanjutkan acara dodol dawet o/ortu CPW di rumah CPW… siraman CPP di rumah CPP, gunting rambut trus guntingan rambut CPP dibawa ke rumah CPW dijadiin satu kmd ditaman di halaman rumah CPW. 2.       Jualan (dodol,jawa) dawet oleh calon orang tua calon pengantin   TAHAP LAMARAN Merupakan pembicaraan antar keluarga, dengan melibatkan calon mempelai wanita dimana maksud kedatangannya untuk meminta putri keluarga wanita akan di jodohkan dengan anaknya. setelah pihak perempuan menerimanya maka dilanjutkan dengan acara serah peningset (biasanya berupa: Kain panjang,kebaya, selop,perlengkapan pakaian,1 stel baju, tas, kosmetik, perhiasan, kue dan buah-buahan). *Note: Biasanya malam hari jam 7an, CPP dtg ke rumah CPW sambil membawa seserahan, waktu acara midodareni CPW ga boleh ketemu dgn CPP dan CPP hanya boleh minum air putih (ga boleh makan di rumah CPW).   TAHAP IJAB KABUL/ AKAD NIKAH Merupakan tahap peresmian sebagai suami istri secara sah baik menurut agama maupun pemerintah (menurut adat surabaya waktu akad nikah kedua mempelai tidak dipertemukan).   TAHAP TEMU PENGANTEN Merupakan Upacara dipertemukannya kedua mempelai diawali dengan arak-arakan prosesi kedatangan pengantin pria dengan cucuk lampah pembawa tombak, pembawa ayam jago,(loro pangkon) kembar mayang, pengantin pria diapit oleh sesepuh putri domas,kedua saudara dan orang tua serta iringan musik tembang jidor, sedangkan mempelai putri diawali dengan cucuk lampah yang membawa beras kuning dalam bokor kencana, pembawa kembar mayang , pengantin putri yang diapit kedua orang tua, serta pembawa ancak, bubakan, bubak kawah apabila pengantin putri merupakan anak putri pertama, sebelum mempelai bertemu pembawa loro pangkon dan beras kuning saling bersilat lidah tentang ilmu kejawen dan tasawuf islam dan dilanjutkan dengan adu pencak silat yang di akhiri dengan kekalahan pihak laki-laki. Ketika mereka sudah berjarak sekitar 2 (dua) meter, mereka saling melempar dengan daun sirih yang dilipat dan diikat dengan benang, yang siapa saja melempar lebih kena ke tubuh diartikan bahwa dalam hidup perkawinannya akan menang selalu. Injak telur… Lalu yang laki-laki mendekati si wanita yang berdiri di sisi sebuah baskom isi air bercampur bunga. Di depan baskom di lantai terletak telur ayam, yang harus diinjak si laki-laki sampai pecah, dan setelah itu kakinya dibasuh dengan air bunga oleh si wanita sambil berjongkok. Kemudian mereka berjajar, segera Ibu si wanita menyelimutkan slindur/selendang yang dibawanya ke pundak kedua pengantin sambil berucap: Anakku siji saiki dadi loro (anakku satu sekarang menjadi dua). Timbangan… Selanjutnya mereka dituntun ke krobongan, dimana ayah dari pengantin perempuan menanti sambil duduk bersila, duduk di pangkuan sang ayah sambil ditanya isterinya: Abot endi Pak ? (berat mana Pak ?), yang dijawab sang suami: Pada dene (sama saja). Kacar-kucur.. Selesai tanya jawab, mereka berdiri, si laki-laki duduk sebelah kanan dan si perempuan sebelah kiri, dimana si dukun pengantin membawa masuk sehelai tikar kecil berisi harta (emas, intan, berlian) dan uang pemberian pengantin laki-laki yang dituangkan ke tangan pengantin perempuan yang telah memegang saputangan terbuka, dan disaksikan oleh para tamu secara terbuka. Suap suapan… Perlambang kerukunan di dalam hidup, dilakukan suap-menyuap makanan antara pengantin. Bersamaan dengan ini, makanan untuk tamu diedarkan (sekarang dengan cara prasmanan) berurutan satu persatu oleh pelayan. Ngabekten (melakukan sembah) kepada orang tua pengantin perempuan dan tilik nganten (kehadiran orang tua laki-laki ke rumah/gedung setelah acara temu selesai yang langsung duduk dikrobongan dan disembah kedua pengantin)... Selesai prosesi temu pengantin di lanjutkan ramah tamah dan hiburan.

klo mo detail  lengkapnya …  boleh buka link2 berikut ini…

http://www.jawapalace.org/tradisijawa.html

http://arc.itb.ac.id/~ade/home/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=13&Itemid=1

http://www.kebudayaan.depdiknas.go.id/BudayaOnline/SeniBudaya/Nitra/SUBANGSA/Busana/n_jawa_timur2.htm

http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/dodi_venus/detail?.dir=8f23&.dnm=92f3.jpg&.src=ph

http://www.petra.ac.id/eastjava/culture/prosesi.htm

BBD in Dumai Part II

Jam 4.30 pas alarm hp bunyi gw bangun.. gak bisa bobo lagi... kluar dari kamar mama wudu.. solat... adem banget rasanya... rasa syukur itu gak bisa dibendung lagi rasanya... duduk diam sendiri diruang solat deket ruang makan... gak lama berasa ada yg merhatiin dari belakang... ternyata mama... kita ngobrol panjang lebar.. ttg sejarah perjalanan kasih gw dengan beruang... pas bedug subuh baru kelar... mam masuk kamar ngebangunin bokap... gw ke kamar si pap... ngebangunin dia subuh... kecup kening sayang... akhirnya matanya buka juga.. ehehehe... trus peluk aku lamaaaaaaa bangeeeeeeet... uugggggggh.. suka suka suka... then sama2 wudhu... baru deh jemaahan bareng bokap nyokap... kelar subuh... pas beres2 tiker... baru ngeh niban cicak... mati lagi... spontan jerit laaah... tinggal si pap yg ngeberesin... itu cicak... hiiiiiiiy... geli... gak lama disuruh mama ganti baju... trus di ajakin jalan2 pagi ke bukit timah sambil cari sarapan pake mobil panther-nya om dodi(*secara mobil dia yg diparkir diluar..) males kali si papa harus ribet ngeluarin terrano dari kandang...



dari semalem diajakin keliling komplek sama ayah... dia sepertinya pengen banget nunjukin klo dumai sekarang udah maju pesat dalam waktu kurang dari 3 tahun... sejak otonomi daerah... dan emang bener sih... banyak banget perkembangan yg berarti... pembangunan dimana-mana... salah satunya kantor dpr dan walikota yg baru dibuat.. yg letaknya gak jauh dari kebun rambutan kita di bukit timah.. gile gede banget... sampe amazed gw liat komplek perkantoran itu... banyak hal yg mau di kembangkan disini... tapi knapa hati gw masih gak tertarik untuk tinggal disana yaa... entah laah...



mengarah cari sarapan dilewatin bukit datuk.... tempat dimana gw melalui sebagian besar masa kecil gw.. berhasil juga bawa papa bear liat sekolahan aku dulu... rumah2 dines papa selama masih kerja di pertamina... tempat aku jatuh dari mobil waktu kecil... tempat kecelakaan motor sama ning huda di perempatan madrasah... tempat jatoh dari palang atletik di SD... rumah sakit dimana gw dilahirkan... aaaaaaaahhhh smua nya deeeeeeeeh... gw rasa bengong2 tuh si sayang harus menyerap smua nya sekaligus... maaf ya sayang... klo aku cerewet... habis aku lagi seneng banget nostalgia tempat lama...



kelar puter2... kita nyarap di warung kopi gantino... dari sebelum pulang gw pengen banget makan pagi disini.. udah lama banget soal nya... kangen sama lontong sayurnya... khususnya sekarang... bisa berbagi banyak cerita dengan orang yg aku kasihi saat ini... asik deeeeeeeh.... pas mau pulang... lagi asik foto sana foto sini... liat mobil eeeh ban nya gembos... untung ada menantu yg punya restoran... dimobilnya lengkap peralatan ganti ban.. jadi papa minta tolong ma tukang parkir buat ngedongkrak and segala macemnya... si beruang di omelin ma papa pas coba ikut2 jongkok mo bantuin... terakhir diusir... disuruh check-in kapal ferry nya aja di counter ferry nya yg ternyata cuma 5 toko dari tempat kita sarapan... dari tempat itu pap baru ngeh klo ada tempat yg lebih dekat lagi klo mau naik ferry ke dumai dari tempat dia... hanya cost nya lebih gede... selisih 130rb sendiri.. ckckck...



selesai urusan check in selesai juga kang parkir ganti ban... canggih juga tu bapak... eheheh... then pulang deh... sampe rumah disuruh mama mandi karna si papa harus sampai di pelabuhan jam 10-an... belum lagi masih harus mampir beli oleh2 buat orang rumah sayang akuuu... jadi serba buru2.. untung nya gak ada yg ketinggalan... sampe pelabuhan pas banget jam 10... turun photo2 pamitan sama mama and ranto... and kiss me... berbekal sekantong plastik oleh2... papa bear pulang lewat malaka.. sayang pengantar gak boleh ikutan masuk... klo gak sure gw nongkrongin dia sampe kapal nya jalan... belum lagi kapal nya pergi... tapi gw udah kangeeeeen beraaaaaaat sama sayang aku yg cuman satu itu... *sigh - masih lama lagi ya bisa bareng2 terus kemana2.. huhuuu... :|

BBD in Dumai Part I

Bangun pagi2 bengong... dari kemaren gak berhenti sms-an ma saayang yg udah nyampe dirumah papa mama dari jam 6 sore... untung ada Om dodi yg sebayaan ma papah... jadi urusan men-guide tamu diserahkan total sama dia... dari kemaren malem secara papa mama ada undangan bukaan rumah baru di RT setempat...



so bangunin sayang subuh... di dumai jam 5.30 baru adzan... dia celingukan keluar gak ada orang... eheheh... akhirnya solat subuh sendirian gak kayak kemaren, dia sempet solat maghrib jemaah sama my mom and dad... diluar kebiasaan.. biasanya beruang tuh balik tidur lagi habis subuh... tumbeeeeeeen... qeqeqe...



kali ini terus bikin teh and nongkrong didepan buk rumah... gak lama papa keluar... get ready maen golf ma tamu2 orang2 kantornya.. papa bear diajak jalan2 pagi liat lapangan golf putri tujuh di bukit datuk sama papa.. habis nge-drop ayah dia diajak muter2 sama ranto(*orang rumah) keliling komplek pertamina di bukit datuk.. ditunjukin rumah dinas papa terakhir waktu masih menjabat di pertamina dumai.. ditunjukin sekolahan SD(*elementry school) gw waktu masih tinggal di dumai belasan tahun yang lalu...



nyampe rumah sarapan soto medan.. trus diajakin nemenin mama belanja kepasar... hihihi.. sayang aku kena tugas nemenin orang tuaa... kebayang deh pasar tradisional yg becek dan bau.. waktu dulu gw masih tinggal ma ortu asli paling anti gw klo diajakin turun kepasar... hahaha... bukan apa2 males gangguan mulut2 jahil orang2 pasar... anyway... ceritanya si papa bear tuh disuruh tunggu ajah dimobil gak perlu turun as my mom always told me klo nganterin dia kepasar (*dulu)...



jadi jalan lah si emak ku ini ke dalem nyari ikan danau... and belanja cabe dikit...

rada bingung ngeliat perilaku si penjual kok asik ngeliatin ke belakang nyokap... ikutan noleh juga deh si mom ke arah yg di liatin sama para penjual sekitar.. qeqeqe jerit n' lompat saking kagetnya liat beruang udah dibelakang dia.. :)) hahaha sayang dosa km bikin kaget orang tua.. dasar papah... qeqeeqe... papa bear cuman senyum manis minta belanjaan mama... ehehehe... jadi lah mreka belanja berdua di pasar.. qeqeqe...



sementara gw dirumah masih repot packing barang2 pesenan mama... adaaaa aja... bawa kacang tolo lah surat ini lah itu lah... pas poto papa mama laa... hayoooh... gak lama tas gw penuh juga... jam 10.30 mandi2 jam 12 lewat 15 habis ruri dzuhur gw berangkat ke bandara halim... nunggu sejam-an pesawat pelitanya baru dateng.. so yg ada terbang dari halim jam 1.30 juga... so many face di dalam ruang tunggu private untuk karyawan pertamina ini... dan gak banyak gw kenal as my mom friends.. yaa maklum aja udah 2 tahun gak pernah pulang ke dumai.. biasanya papa mama yg mudik ke jakarta...



selama 1jam40mnt penerbangan gw cmn bisa bobo.. sambil ngebayangin si sayang lagi ngapain aja.. tadi sebelum berangkat katanya dia diajakin om gw sarapan jam 10 di kedai kopi bahagia... si om ngopi my beruang makan pangsit... gak kebayang deh perasaan dari kemaren makan mulu... hadoooh... hati2 perut mu sayang... :*** ntar kelebihan berat badan ribut lagi.. qeqeqee... mendarat di airport pinang kampai dumai pas jam 3... secara gw duduk paling belakang di 18F... jadi harap sabar... ngantri... pesawat foker ini pintu yg dibuka cuman satu di depan...



pas nyampe di luar sambil jalan kaki celingukan cari my sayang biasanya gampang keliatan karna dia paling tinggi... instead of cari my mom yg tinggi nya rata2 rada susah g jadinya... baru ngeh pas mom ngelambai2 tangan... and si pap dah berdiri di dalem... eheheh akhirnya sayang akuu... ada sama my mom duluan disanah.. eheheh... sungguh proses yg diluar dugaan... gak lama ketemu sayang gw baru nyadar... untuk pertamakalinya gw liat dia pake sendal.. :)) kamu pake sendal siapa sayang.. pertanyaan itu spontan kluar mulut dari gw.. sambil malu2 jawab punya papa... qaqaqa...ini pertama dalam sejarah beruang pake sendal... selama kenal gw gak pernah liat dia pake sendal... habis gak boleh pake sepatu sama papa... geli banget gw... klo inget dulu dia menolak mentah2 ide gw buat beliin sendal..



Anyway... nunggu barang bentar ketemu papa yg masih sama tamu2 nya then kita balik kerumah... aaaahhhh... leganya... duduk2 ngobrol2 laper juga gw.. makan ayam panggang then istirahat bentar... sambil bolak balik gangguin sayang... ashar bentar... magrib jemaah ma sayang and my parent malemnya kita makan kepiting keluar... habis mam beli martabak duren... ama martabak keju... juga cari air akar... kangen gw sama smua jajanan favorit disana...

nyampe rumah buka2 bungkusan... ngemil2... mulai deh gw senggol2 si pap biar ngobrol sekarang ajah... secara udah malem my dad juga udah ngantuk2... eeehhh... si pap gak bisa diajak kerja sama... payaah..



bikin muka tanda tanya plak... (*as saying "how??") ya udah gw preambule juga dulu.. "pah... si abang mau ngomong sesuatu sama papah..." then pindah lah kita smua duduk dari ruang makan ke ruang tengah... mom duduk pegan remote tivi sambil ganti2 channel... bear duduk dikursi yg agak rendah sebelah mama, my dad duduk menghadap ke tivi juga sementara gw duduk dibawah diatas bantal dan karpet ruang tengah...



And... terjadi lah percakapan meminang terlucu di dunia....

papa: "iya mau ngomong apa.."

bear udah duduk manis meluk sambil ngeremes bantal after bergumam beberapa lama bear pointing at me: "saya mau yang itu.. anak papa.. yang itu..."

udah gitu tutup muka pakai bantal gede yg di remes2 dari tadi..

spontan gw, mam and dad ketawa ngakak...

mama:"apa km ni kayak anak kecil aja..."

my dad senyum simpul liat si beruang... qeqeqe...

bear:"kalau boleh nanti saya bawa orang tua saya and family datang..."

udah deh langsung kena ceramah si beruang ama my dad... qeqeqe... gw senyum simpul aja ngeliat nya... lucu geli.. tapi sayaaaaang banget... qeqeqe...



intinya sih... di kasih... tinggal pap bawa keluarga aja dateng kenalan... biar enak.. ngobrolin kapan mau jadi-nya... waaaah lega banget deh rasanya... gak lama bokap bilang udah yaa... gak ada yg mo diobrolin lg kan... dia capek mo istirahat... so tinggal lah kami bertiga di ruangan... si beruang pindah duduk kebawah... and baru gw liat bajunya keringatan... dan seingat gw sayang ku ini gak gampang keringatan... :)) tegang banget rupanya tadi... qeqeqe... gw ngambil tisu ngelap keringet dimuka nya... after a while ngobrol dengan me mom... trus gw berasa laper lagi... makan martabak dikit... baru deh pada mo bobo... nganterin pap ke kamarnya.. then he completely looks very glad... eheheh and saying.. kamuh punya aku!!! singa kuyus bandel punya aku... qeqeqe.. sayang ku yg manis... sebelum balik ke kamar nyokap pap peluk lamaaaaaaa banget... lepas deh smua beban yg menggunung selama ini...



eheheeh makaci ya sayang... mmmwwwaaah... nanite... so after this.. kita gak perlu lagi kabur2an klo pacaran... qeqeqe... wuff u... dan berlalu laah hari yg indah ini... sejarah keluarga untuk km berdua pun dimulai... aku sayang kamu pap... mmmmwwwwaaah... :**************

Meet d parent..

Hari ini jam 3 waktu jakarta si pap berangkat ketemu keluarga diah di dumai lewat malaka sendirian... jam 5 nanti seharusnya udah nyampe nii... so malem ini lah kita tunggu sama2 apa hasil pembicaraan pap dgn my parent.. Insya Allah lancar... Amiiiin... smua serba dadakan.. denger keputusannya semlm untuk pergi aja rasa nya masih seperti mimpi... as i told my parent that he's otw to their home... an order to come home terus datang... qehqehqeh... so ill go to dumai with afternoon flight secara cuman tiket itu yg bisa gw dapet... so guys wish us many good luck ya... smoga smuanya lancar dan damaaaaaiii... :)